If you’re a lot like me, and I’ll bet your bottom booty you are, you have days when your mind has an inner critic setting on the board of directors. Can you trust what your mind tells you? Tell me if you have ever experienced some of the following thoughts.
- It’s too hard I can’t do that
- I’ll never make it
- I’m too fat, too skinny, too tall, too short, too….
- I can’t help myself
- I’ll never be happy
- I’m must have been a bad person for this to happen
- They don’t like me
- I can’t stand it any longer
- This is killing me
- I’m not smart enough, good enough, rich enough, cool enough….
You get the idea. We all have these kinds of thoughts. They are painful. They can be so painful that you don’t get out of bed or go to social events. You may try to distract yourself or talk yourself out of believing your thoughts. You may find yourself entangled in a fight with your mind. You completely focus on the fight and winning over the negative thoughts that your mind tells you are true. You might try winning with positive affirmations. In the short run you may also find relief with watching television, eating food, drinking alcohol, or watching pornography. Ouch! Those damn negative thoughts in the mind will come back another day. Maybe even the same day.
What can you do to manage them. Let them chatter away. I know this may sound just the opposite of what common sense tells you. However, research is beginning to show us we can’t escape our minds so we have to learn to live with it.
What you can do to help manage your life is connect to how you want to live it. This requires getting clear on your values. Then, go for it. Live your life based on those values. Also, mindfulness practices can help. However, that is a whole other post.
I’m glad you stopped by and come again soon.
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