Are You Seeking Levity, Lightness And Love?
Are you either trapped in a partnership that you don’t know how to end or struggling to meet a potential partner and start a meaningful romantic relationship? Do you often feel frustrated in and confused by relationships in general, and although you try hard to fix the situation or make changes to the environment, you never seem to get the results you’ re looking for? Maybe it’s difficult for you to read others well, connect meaningfully and get your needs met. Perhaps you feel disconnected, isolated and/or different from other people and can’t understand why. It might be that you have a strong sense of ethics and values and are constantly disappointed when others don’t share your sense of integrity, accountability and respect. Do you long to be in a loving, trusting, equitable relationship with someone who understands and appreciates you for all that you are?
Feeling lonely, frustrated or lacking in love can be a wearisome experience. You might sincerely want a compatible partner to build a life with, but struggle to navigate relationships or even meet someone with whom you share a mutual attraction. While successful in other aspects of your life, you might wonder why relationships—especially romantic ones—seem to be harder for you than they are for other people. Maybe it’s difficult for you to connect with people you don’t already know. Perhaps you just don’t read people well. Or, it might be that a string of unfulfilling relationships has left you feeling frustrated and confused.
Everyone Struggles With Relationships Of Some Kind, At Some Point
If you’re bumping up against relationship issues, you are far from alone. Relationship challenges are ubiquitous in our culture, and it’s unlikely that there is anyone alive who has not struggled with some relationship at some point.
Humans are dynamic and often unpredictable. To make matters more complicated, most of us are walking around with some level of unresolved childhood wounds that inevitably play out in our relationships—or in the lack thereof. Without realizing it, we often repeat dysfunctional patterns of relating learned during childhood and/or embody the stories that we created about ourselves at a young age—and often these stories aren’t all that nice or true.
It’s also inevitable that we’ll be triggered by personalities and communication styles that conflict with ours, which is normal and natural given that we all see the world through a different lens. Furthermore, we live in an increasingly dynamic world and the skills, tools and technologies that we use to meet, communicate and connect with others is rapidly and constantly changing. It can be hard to meet potential partners and/or navigate a relationship that is strained due to dynamic careers, travel or conflicting needs, values and goals.
The good news is that it is possible to successfully navigate relationships and the dating scene. A skilled, savvy and understanding relationship coach can help you connect to your most fundamental, personal values, identify what/who it is that you are truly looking for and develop an effective strategy to help you reach your relationship goals.
Relationship Coaching Can Provide You With Skills, Support And Strategy
While it’s common to feel frustrated when it comes unsuccessful relationships and dating uncertainties, it’s important to remember that if you work enough formulas, you’ll eventually come up with the right one. And, an experienced dating coach can help you cut to the quick of relationship woes. In a dynamic, practical and collaborative process, I can help you clarify what you want from a relationship, identify what’s getting in your way and devise a thoughtful plan to help you find and foster a meaningful, satisfying relationship—beginning with the one you have with yourself.
When we’re not at our best or living as our true, authentic selves, self-esteem and confidence suffers, often resulting in compromises and/or decisions that don’t serve us well. As we explore your past and present relationships, I’ll help you get to the root of who you are and how you want to be in relationship with yourself and others. We can identify values and priorities in regards to religion/spirituality, parenting, work, money, sex, etc. We’ll also get clear on your expectations, desires and deal breakers when it comes to relationships, as well as where you can find common ground in existing relationships. While you can’t change anyone else, you can explore your own interpretations, broaden your perspectives and expand personally, as well as develop new ways to connect and communicate.
As a dating coach, I can help you develop strategies that can help you meet both potential partners and the kind of people you’d like to spend time with. We can explore ways to nudge you out of your comfort zone, further work on communication and connection techniques and create a pragmatic dating coaching plan that aligns with your specific relationship situation and addresses your unique relationship goals and needs. As needed, we may role-play, work on reading social cues and develop strategies that help you show up the way you want to show up in social situations.
Regardless of your relationship situation, goals and needs, I know through years of both personal and professional experience that it is possible to find and foster your dream relationship. With the support and guidance of an experienced, practical relationship coach, you can learn how to stay true to your values, step into your authentic self and navigate all kinds of relationships with more confidence and ease.
You still may have questions or concerns about relationship counseling and coaching…
I feel like I’ve tried everything from online dating to seeing a therapist, and I’m still struggling to meet someone. How would working with you help?
I take a pragmatic, value-based approach to dating coaching, and will work collaboratively with you to develop a personalized, strategic plan based on your values, personality, needs and relationship goals. Whether it’s learning new social skills, developing tools to use your emotional intelligence more effectively or taking the time to get really clear on who you are and what you want, I’ll invest in your success and embark upon this journey with you. Together, we’ll figure out what truly works for you.
Maybe I should just accept that I’m destined to be alone and stop trying.
Although dating can be frustrating, I encourage you not to abandon yourself even if it feels like everyone else has. We live in a big world, and there is always a possibility—and likely a probability—of finding someone who is a good match for you. In dating coaching sessions, we can work on shifting your perspective so you can focus on what’s possible rather than closing doors that haven’t even opened yet.
I’m in a relationship that I want to end, but don’t know how to without hurting my partner.
So many people stay in unhealthy, unfulfilling relationships out of fear. We fear hurting others, failing or being judged as “the bad guy.” But, failing to live your life in the pursuit of happiness and in accordance with your values can be even more devastating. In relationship therapy sessions, I can coach you through your existing relationship and see how/if it aligns with your values. This value-based work can help you decide if you really want to leave. Life is short, and our intimate relationships can ultimately be the greatest source of fulfillment and joy.
Find And Foster Authentic, Fulfilling Connections
It is possible to create union, reciprocity and joy in your relationships. If you’re ready to experience more levity and love in your life, I invite you to contact me to schedule a free 20-minute call. I’m happy to discuss your particular needs and goals and answer any questions you have about relationship counseling and coaching, dating coaching and my practice.