I sat down at the computer to write this week’s blog knowing that Valentine’s Day is on Monday. While searching my heart for a topic I found myself at a loss for a subject that felt sincere. Repeatedly, I asked myself, “What shall I write about? In searching my mind I realized my heart felt a sadness for the people in the world who feel they have nobody to love them or to give their love to. I wondered if this is an experience we all have at some point in our life. The dreaded feeling of being un-loved or unlovable. A layer below unloved is perhaps the feeling of unworthy and not good enough.
I know this may not be the most cheerful topic to read about before Valentine’s Day, but stay with me. I have a message for you. An insight I want to tell you about from my life. Like I said above, we don’t talk about feeling unworthy, however, we each know the feeling of not being loved. I believe it is a universal experience. Now for the tidbit.
There was a time in my early thirties when I was unattached and feeling blue. I was not romantically involved with anybody and feeling quite alone. “Hence, who will give me flowers and chocolates and who will I cook a candle lit dinner for?” Meanwhile, I got an attitude building up and decided I could be loving towards myself. I didn’t need anybody!
I had some spicy ideas about a new adventure for just me. I spent the next several days thinking and planning a day for me. I can hear the echoes from my history shaded with an angry hurt tone.
To my surprise, Valentine’s Day became a day of self-care and an opportunity for me to fill my heart with self-acceptance.
- I learned to do this independent of outside influence.
- I learned to listen to my inner voice and be
- I learned to be good to myself.
I am asking you ~ how often do you really ask yourself, “What do I want?” Then, how often do you listen to the answer. Really truly listen. To listen while in the quiet space of your mind. How often do you get quiet enough to hear how to give to yourself in a loving and compassionate manner?
I believe we all want our hearts desire to be heard. The desire to be enough to be loved and to love wholeheartedly. We all want to be accepted for who we are.
Hence, my message to you, “You are enough.” Be kind to yourself. I am listening.
This is a great post and a wonderful new way to view Vday! Thank you for this very insightful and inspiring post! I will be sure to share! Susan:)
Brenda Bomgardner says
I am glad to hear you liked the post about self-love. I think it can be difficult to get to a place in life where we give ourselves permission to meet our own needs and love ourselves just the way we are in the moment. I appreciate you passing the message along.
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