Do you need to have self-confidence to pursue your dreams? There was a time I believed if I had more self-confidence I would have what a wanted. My wishes would come true. I believed I had to have self-confidence to ask for a promotion or raise. Also, I believed if I was more self-confident I would have the right guy in my life. I went around inserting, “If only I had more self-confidence,” in front of almost all my wishes.Essentially, I was waiting for my life to begin.
The power of those words influenced the choices I made about how I was living my life. It is a hoax! It is not true. It is simply misleading information. A person really could wait a life time to begin living their life if they wait until they feel more self-confident or have more self-esteem. Consequently, I love to help people connect to their dreams and bring those dreams to life.
Sure having self-confidence and self-esteem are important feelings and it’s great to have them. And if you don’t have them it can feel more uncomfortable pursuing your dreams. I admit it can be hard and challenging to risk feeling insecure, anxious, uncertain, timid or shy. Being vulnerable is not for the weak. It takes courage.
We all have courage. I know you do. Sometimes, taking a small step is all that is needed to get the ball rolling towards your dreams. This is one of the reason’s I like facilitating workshops based on Acceptance and Commitment Training (ACT). With ACT you can learn skills to help you connect to your dreams and then develop a step-by step plan. Also, ACT is it is based on cutting-edge of research on how the mind works. You can click here to learn about the next workshop
How did I discover the hoax about self-confidence? Two words from a friend. “Why not?” The friend repeated the question over and over until I ran out of excuses. I was full of, “Yeah but!” All that did was keep me stuck. It’s not easy to get un-stuck when there is a story that has been around a life time. We all have self-limiting stories. And you can learn skills to put those stories where they belong. One such skill is using the following words, I’m having the thought that I need to have more self-confidence. Just try it next time you experience a self-limiting belief.
You can also, call me and I can walk you through the exercise. It only takes about 5 minutes.
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