I know it’s not Tuesday but I really want to share with you on hump day Wednesday.
I often hear people say, ” I know what he thinks of me.” Another one is. “She thinks I am blah, blah, blah…” How do you know what someone is thinking? Maybe you have intuition. Okay, me too. I get a hunch and then I like to check it out. Sometimes I am right on other times I am off base.
The times I am off is generally when I have spun my life filter onto the other person. In other words, I have projected my history into interpreting their behavior. We all do it. The important thing to remember here is to check out your hypothesis. Any curious scientists will look for the evidence. I find the best way to find the evidence about if my hunch holds any water is to ask.
Has this happened to you? Where someone thinks they know you better than you know yourself?
This is another good one. It is your responsibility to ask for what you want. My advice – don’t make people guess. I hear comments like he should know or if I have to ask it not as special.
The solution is to listen with an open mind and heart. Speak from the same place.
(C) Copyright Brenda Bomgardner, MA, LPC, NCC, BCC